The mind is a powerful thing. It is in fact so powerful that it can make or break your success. Whatever success means for you.

Do you want to create that thriving 6- or 7-figure business? Do you want to travel the world with your location-independent enterprise? Do you want to feel fabulous in your body? Do you want to fall in love with your partner or spouse more each day? Do you want to raise independent and confident children? Do you want to have a loving and connected family life?

Do you want any or all of the above? Whatever it is, it's possible for you! It's yours for the taking.

How to get there when it feels like a pipe dream?

Believing in your dream

Firstly, you need to believe that it's available for you. That's were most talk themselves out of their dreams already.

What if, as long as you can dream it, that it's available for you?

By all means, hire me to re-affirm this permission to you, and help you reframe your mind until you allow yourself to believe it. You can also do that for yourself. Whenever your mind starts to cast doubts about whether your dream is possible for you to be, do and have, notice that this is only your fear talking.

That fear is like a master of the dark arts. It knows all the winning arguments to make you believe that you can't go where you want to go the most. It hijacks your negative self-beliefs and makes you want to stay with the familiar.

Staying put feels familiar. What you have in your life right now feels familiar. Maybe even not achieving any of your big dreams feels familiar. Or feeling hopeless and stuck might feel familiar.

Yet, everything that you dream of doing, being or having is on the other side of familiar.

You can't fight, banish or outrun your fear.

It's there to be felt, to allow it and realise it for what it is: a figment of your imagination. It's not real.

It's a clever little mechanism that has been developed to make you feel safe.

Fear is very useful to avoid being attacked by a bear in the wild. It tells you when to it's time to fight or flight.

For your big dreams where you have to make empowered decisions, learn new skills and enter the unfamiliar – not so much!

Question your fear

A great way to overcome your fear is to question it.

Let me explain it using an example.

Say you want to launch an event which you'd love to be fully booked. So far, you've only got some mild interest in your event and no bookings. You feel disheartened and wonder if you need to give up on your event.

Firstly, ask yourself: "Does this event feel fully aligned with me and my dreams? How will I feel running this event, and after?"

This is just to double-check it's an aligned action for you. It's entirely fine to come to the conclusion that it's not the right next step to plough your energy into. Let's assume you answer with something like: "Yes, I feel excited about this and can't wait to run it. I know I feel even more energised after!"

Next, ask yourself: "What do I fear? What's the worst that can happen?"

You might answer here that you worry that no one will book. Even if you were to put all your time and energy into promoting it, it may all be in vain.

Yes, the event might flop, even after you put your all into it.

This is where you remember that the outcome is not a reflection of your worth. It's merely a stepping stone on your journey. You either succeed or you learn an important lesson – either is a fabulous outcome as it has made you grow!
(For more on that, read “Does your work validate you?”)

Next, ask yourself: "How do I react, what happens, when I believe that thought?"*

It may make you feel deflated and feel a little sorry for yourself. You probably are not going to put all your might into getting people to sign up. You might do a half-hearted attempt at sending a few messages expecting to be turned down. Or, in the worst case, you might just give up right then and there. Because, after all, you're likely not going to succeed anyway...

Lastly, ask yourself the next question: "Who or what would I be without the thought?"*

Really feel into it! What would be possible if you didn't think this thought, if it wasn't on your radar at all? What if you weren't even capable of thinking this thought. What would you be doing? How would you be feeling? Who would you be?

Without that fear, you might feel free, excited and trusting that your event is the right offering. You might feel energised to reach out, you might think of people who might want or need this event and you might come up with a variety of ways to get onto the radar of the right kind of attendees.

It’s your choice

Now you've got a choice: will you let fear sit in the driving seat, or will you scoot fear over and start fully believing in yourself and your dreams?

Neither is wrong. You will just have a different outcome and experience.

Let's recap

Here are steps to pivot from fearful to successful:

Mantra: If I can dream it, I can do it!

1. “Does this action feel fully aligned? How will I feel doing it, and after?"

2. "What do I fear? What's the worst that can happen?"

   Reminder: Whatever the outcome, it doesn't define me!

3. "How do I react, what happens, when I believe that thought?

4. "Who or what would I be without the thought?"

Over to you

How do you bolster your self-belief, push through your worries and stay true to your dreams?

Let me know in the comments below 👇

Wishing you a wonderful day!

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